Our Sleep Practitioner Sarah Coldrey is used to helping families with their sleep difficulties but, as she explains, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t experience the same difficulties with her child Theo. Theo was born prematurely and Sarah updated us on his progress as well as how she settled Theo into a better bedtime routine.
When Theo reached one we found that we were in a fairly good routine. He would wake around 6.30am, have 2 short naps a day and then bedtime was around 7pm. He was generally asleep within 10 minutes.
We followed the same bedtime routine every day. At 6.15pm he would have a bottle of warm milk downstairs, we would then go upstairs and Theo would have a bath for about 15 minutes. We would then go straight to the bedroom and get into pyjamas. Once ready for bed we would sit and read a few stories in dim lighting. I would then carry him to his cot and sing twinkle twinkle little star, I would leave the room and Theo would self-settle to sleep in a dark room with black out blinds, sometimes he cried but it was only for a minute or two.
Between ages one and two Theo slept generally very well and we felt lucky. Sometimes he would wake in the early hours but we found that this was probably because his room was getting quite cold and so we put a heater in his room over the winter that came on around 4am. This seemed to improve the situation and Theo would sleep until at least 6am.
Around the age of two, Theo started to wake in the night. I found this confusing as he was able to self settle to sleep and so I didn’t feel there was an obvious reason why he wouldn’t be able to re settle himself during the night. I did however feel that Theo was going through some developmental changes. His language was coming on and he was starting to potty train. He was also very clingy when I dropped him to nursery (normally he couldn’t have cared less when I left him)
For the first few night wakes, it was such a shock to the system that we just bought Theo into our bed as most people do (even though I’m a sleep practitioner, I’m still human and the need for sleep took precedent).
For some people co sleeping works well, but for us it did not as Theo tended to fidget all night and somehow take up nearly an entire double bed and so we needed a new plan.
Initially I used a chair bed (a fold out foam bed) and would lay on the floor next to his cot and sometimes hold his hand.
After doing this for a few days, I decided I was being too soft and wanted to move things along, so I moved onto a single bed that was in his room but was much further away from his cot. I felt pleased about this because he wasn’t coming into our bed and I was able to create a bit of distance between him whilst still being in his room.
Fast-forward a couple of months, Theo seems more settled in himself and goes to nursery happily again. Some nights he wakes in the night and we will leave him to self-settle back to sleep and some nights we know that he probably needs the comfort of having us nearby and so we still go into his room and sleep on the single bed. This is not ideal but it works for us in our real life. Theo continues to self-settle at bedtime and so I’m confident his good sleep habits will return.
However – I know we have a whole new battle ahead of us when we transfer Theo from a cot to a bed!
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